The second type which you form are the friends. Well this is where you have absolute control. You meet people, you like them so you meet them again. And it carries forward from there. You meet people, you don't like them, you don't ever see them again even if you ruffle a few feathers. This is one relationship which sees you in your element. You are what you are with your friends. There are no pretences usually.
The third kind and the weirdest one is the one you enter into through marriage. I call it weird because for one you got to be in it for ever like for always, till death do you part. For another, knowingly you allow yourself to be tethered for life. And another weird thing is that its the only relationship which requires the most work.
Your birth family is part of your DNA so you literally grow cell by cell with them. It works, if doesn't work it will still work somehow! I hope you get what I mean.
Friends of course you have selected after much thought and grand trials so there you definitely have done the work before cementing the relationship. Afterwards its mostly a smooth ride.
A spouse is an area of concern. The world's best psychologists will also agree that you need to work on your marriage everyday if you want to stay true to your vows. Even time cannot vouch for the long haul. You have to keep tinkering at it. Years of living together and bearing each other doesn't guarantee conjugal bliss. You can never say ah! finally my work here is done! It carries on and on. Its like a never ending trial. you commit a crime, you stand in the witness box, you testify, you get the judgment and before you know it you are back in the witness box.
And so goes the circus of life!!
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