BE POSITIVE

Being positive- is it a state of mind or situations? 

Being positive as per my understanding means the attitude with which you live in the world and face your own insecurities. We have so many personality types - positive, negative, introvert, extrovert, dominant, submissive - psychologists will be able to build the classification tree better. I would rather look at it from my own view of life which I have lived and aspired for. I believe that positive traits are definitely inherent but can also be acquired through training. We just have to realise that our minds are swathes of unexplored territory. Areas of our brain are still virgin and unused - they remain so till our death. Scientist have proven this in the pristine controlled environs of the laboratory. So the negative traits which inhabit our minds can be overridden by the positives which we can cultivate. The way towards this is mindful living and conscious actions. When we live most of our lives consciously we become aware of everything that we as humans are experiencing. Being conscious of our actions and our thoughts is the first and the ultimate step to changing our personalities. When we catch ourselves doing something which is not very appealing we can divert and steer ourselves towards more desirable thought processes. Every time we nip a negative process and allow a positive one to prevail we prune and tame our personal traits. Its like weeding out the undesirables and providing ample sunshine to the desirables to grow and flourish. I do this and most of the times am able to draw myself back from the brink. Whenever I catch myself in an unhappy territory I change direction and move towards happier thoughts, things, people, events, future plans and lo and behold! I am in a happy place. But a very important prerequisite for such utopian situations is the absence of external negative factors - mostly people. Such draining entities need to be shown the exit door. As I always tell my Mother-in-law we have the choice to pick people to be part of our lives irrespective of the fact whether we are born or married into a certain group. An average life span of 70 years which when deconstructed doesn’t leave much scope for self harm through unwanted associations. That small portion of our lives needs a selfish outlook on our behalf. Selfish as in a greed for happiness and peace of mind.